Sex and Love Addiction Treatment is not what many people every talk about. Dysfunctional sex lives and lives where sex and possibly even most of our relationships are as bad for us as any drug is. Hyper sexual activity in many personality disorders is seldom talked about. People who stop drinking or drugging may often turn to sex as a therapeutic means to avoid their feelings and act out on their rage. Sex and Love Addiction Treatment for the majority of folks is all about understanding what we do with our sexuality and how it is intricately linked to our self-esteem and our personalities. If you often find yourself in bad relationships with the opposite sex you may be the common denominator! Check this out with the 10 questions below on 10 Questions to ask yourself about Sex and Love Addiction Treatment that you can ask yourself. You may have to question what you believe about what you need from the relationship. It is not always positive things that we need. Sometimes we need and require negative things from people that hurt us abuse us in the street us. Often times we don’t even know this because it is a subconscious process.
Identifying unhealthy patterns is a good place to start in the process of self enquiry. Not of other people we date or have relationships with, but rather with ourselves. Sometimes we pick abusive or even emotionally unavailable people to have relationships with. This is because these people are safe. We know what they will do and how they will do it. So this leaves no uncertainty that can make us anxious or afraid. Many people are coming to our centre have been in relationships where they have been abused emotionally physically and sexually. The strange part about all of this is that they don’t do it once. There is normally a pattern involved. A damaging one too. They do this to themselves over and over again and create drama and disaster in these relationships. Until they start working on themselves and develop a good understanding of what they do and why they do it they will not get well. Codependence sex and love addiction are all signs of an unhealthy relationship that we have with ourselves. It is not about other people. It is not about people who are in relationships with. It is about how we treat ourselves and allow others to treat us.
Sex and love addiction is not something that is reserved for a few of the perverted in our culture. On the contrary it is normal people who suffer this affliction who are looking for love and affection in all the wrong ways and places. We can seek love affiliation and affection in positive ways or negative ways. Some people are addicted to drugs and alcohol and others to relationships. Codependence can be as damaging as any other drug. Let’s look into how we go about treating sex and love addiction.
About Sex and Love Addiction Treatment
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition-oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous.
The only qualification for Sex and Love Addiction Treatment is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction and cross addiction. S.L.A.A. is supported entirely through contributions of its membership, and is free to all who need it.
To counter the destructive consequences of Sex and Love Addiction Treatment we draw on five major resources:
- Sobriety: Our willingness to stop acting out in our own personal bottom-line addictive behaviour on a daily basis.
- Sponsorship/Meetings: Our capacity to reach out for the supportive fellowship within S.L.A.A.
- Steps: Our practise of the Twelve Step programme of recovery to achieve sexual and emotional sobriety.
- Service: Our giving back to the S.L.A.A. community what we continue to freely receive.
- Spirituality: Our developing a relationship with a Power greater than ourselves which can guide and sustain us in recovery.
As a fellowship concenred with Sex and Love Addiction Treatment it has no opinion on outside issues and seeks no controversy. S.L.A.A. is not affiliated with any other organisations, movements or causes, either religious or secular.
We are, however, united in a common focus: dealing with our addictive sexual and emotional behaviour. We find a common denominator in our obsessive/compulsive patterns which renders any personal differences of sexual or gender orientation irrelevant.
We need protect with special care the anonymity of every S.L.A.A. member. Additionally, we try to avoid drawing undue attention to S.L.A.A. as a whole from the public media.
The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signposts of sex and love addiction. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers due to these questions provide absolute assurance that illness is not present. Many sex and love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private. We hope that these questions will prove helpful.
10 Questions to ask yourself about Sex and Love Addiction Treatment and 40 more questions
- Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone?
- Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you?
- Do you feel that you don’t want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities? Do you feel you need to hide these activities from others – friends, family, co-workers, counsellors etc?
- Do you get “high” from sex and or romance? Do you crash?
- Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people?
- Do you make promises to yourself or rules for yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behaviour that you find you can not follow?
- Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don’t (didn’t) want to have sex with?
- Do you believe that sex and or a relationship will make your life bearable?
- Have you ever felt like you had to have sex?
10. Do you believe that someone can “fix” you?
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