Egocentricity is what people call the ‘King Baby Syndrome’. How does the chemically dependent person, the alcoholic, become King Baby, the consummate egomaniac? Professionals helping people through Addiction Treatment for a King Baby personas tell us that the addict has an almost instinctive need to protect himself from the knowledge that he’s hooked – that this is right in the disease. And that because of it, the addict becomes extremely defensive. It’s this defensiveness, stifling our mental and emotional and spiritual growth, that reduces us all – to some degree at least – to a state of King Babyhood.
Being King Baby isn’t so bad, really if you happen to be a baby! As a matter of fact, it’s a natural, normal thing in a baby. Babies cry and someone rushes to feed them, change their diapers, hold them, burp them or somehow administer to them. Babies smile and everybody says “Good baby”. Nice things happen to babies. Then they close their eyes and everything goes away. When they open their eyes once more everything comes back again. Babies have absolute power over the world: they can truly make it appear and disappear.
Genuine egomania, masking a strong feeling of inferiority, is a common trait shared by people who are bull-shitting themselves and the world around them.
Dr. Harry Tiebout used “His Majesty, the Baby,” the words of psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud, to describe an inborn attitude. The term King Baby could just as well be Queen Baby, because we all probably have this infantile ego in our unconscious minds. Chemically dependent people must be especially aware of King Baby characteristics; for these attitudes and behaviors can interfere with recovery.
In our Twelve Step program courses on Addiction Treatment for a King Baby we repeatedly see the need and make the attempt to surrender – to turn our lives and our will over to the care of God. We have slogans that emphasize the necessity and rewards of the Third Step: Let Go and Let God, What’s Turned Over Turns Out. The recognition of powerlessness is the basis of surrender, but the act of surrendering comes with the total acceptance of that powerlessness. Many of us who have difficulty with the First Step may recognize our powerlessness but be unwilling to accept it. In other words, we are able to see and understand it, but our need for control prevents us from committing ourselves to this very necessary act of surrender. Our egos interfere. Our immaturity demands we retain control. Our King Baby mentality insists we direct our lives and control our wills. In doing so, King Baby obstructs our healthy recovery.
we will learn to identify the infantile King Baby ego within us. Our childish personality traits must be surrendered before our disease can be fully arrested. The compulsive King Baby personality can accelerate addiction or lead to relapse. We have to maintain our awareness of these tendencies as we work our Twelve Step recovery program in Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous.
WHO IS KING BABY?
To understand Addiction Treatment for a King Baby, let’s imagine for a moment we’re returning to the womb. Here we feel warmth, security, com-fort, freedom, and power. All our needs are taken care of. We are the center of our universe. We are cared for just because we exist, and we are perfectly content. Infancy also encourages our King Baby attitudes. Our loud demands for food, attention, and care are answered immediately. We are again the center of a vast kingdom; our wishes are all-important. Through the natural maturing processes of childhood and adulthood, most of the King Baby mentality is discarded and replaced by more appropriate coping skills.
Some of us, however, advanced through the stages of physical growth without shedding this immature creature – King Baby. For us, King Baby never forgets the wonderful, warm security of prenatal and infant life and will try again and again to experience it. King Baby strives to recapture the total contentment of every need being met.
Addiction Treatment for a King Baby – CHARACTERISTICS
In attempting to regain the security of infancy, King Babies continue to function with the same feelings that gratified them so long ago. Tiebout says that “when infantile traits continue into adulthood, the person is spoken of as immature” and this immaturity is tied to the traits of feelings of omnipotence, inability to accept frustrations, and doing things hurriedly.’
King Babies share a wide range of personality traits. None of us has all of these traits, but we will probably find many that describe us. King Babies may show these characteristics:
1. often become angry at or afraid of authority figures and will attempt to work them against each other in order to get their own way
2. seek approval and frequently lose their own identities in the process
3. are able to make a good first impression but are unable to follow through
4. have difficulty accepting personal criticism and become threatened and angry when criticized
5. have addictive personalities and are driven to extremes
6. are self-rejecting or self-alienated
7. are often immobilized by anger and frustration and are rarely satisfied
8. are usually lonely even when surrounded by people
9. are chronic complainers who blame others for what’s wrong with their lives
10. feel unappreciated and think they don’t fit in
11. see the world as a jungle filled with selfish people who “aren’t there” for them
12. see everything as a catastrophe, a life-and-death situation
13. judge life in absolutes: black or white, right or wrong
14. live in the past while fearful of the future
15. have strong feelings of dependence and exaggerated fears of abandonment
16. fear failure and rejection and don’t try new things that they might not do well
17. are obsessed with money and material things
18. dream big plans and schemes and have little ability to make them happen
19. cannot tolerate illness in themselves or others
20. prefer to charm superiors and intimidate subordinates
21. believe rules and laws are for others, not for themselves
22. often become addicted to excitement, life in the fast lane
23. hold emotional pain within and lose touch with their feelings
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